You're performing. On the outside, everything works. Inside, something has gone quiet.

Counselling in English for international professionals in Madrid who hold everything together — and have stopped holding themselves. With someone who came from that world (consulting, tech, high-pressure environments) before turning to support the people still in it.

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Javier de Miguel — Integrative counsellor in Madrid
10+Years in consulting & tech
EMDR + IFSIntegrative approach
EN / ESBilingual
30 minFree first conversation

This might sound familiar

Performance anxiety

You get everything done, but the emotional cost keeps rising. The stomach, the insomnia, the tension — your body keeps the score.

Impostor syndrome

Achievements, promotions, recognition — and the constant feeling that they're about to find you out.

Emotional disconnection

Everything looks fine on the outside. But inside there's an emptiness the next achievement doesn't fill.

Insomnia and exhaustion

Your mind won't switch off at night. You sleep but don't rest. The weekend is never enough.

Strained relationships

Your partner says you're never there. Your friends stopped calling. Your life has shrunk to work — often far from home.

"Is this all there is?"

You've achieved what you were supposed to achieve. And the question lingers: what now?

Success shouldn't hurt like this

No one warned you about the price. In consulting, tech, finance or law, you learned to perform under pressure, to never show the crack, to let your worth equal your output. It worked — until your body, your relationships or your sense of meaning began to send the bill. And when you're also far from home, building a life in a new language, that weight can feel even more isolating.

This isn't weakness. It's what happens after years of functioning without a space simply to be.

Before you go further, I want you to see and hear me

Choosing who to talk to about what weighs on you is a personal decision. This short video is so you can get to know me a little before taking the step.

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What if it's not how you work, but that you no longer want this work?

Sometimes the discomfort isn't about how you work — it's about something harder to admit: the career you built with so much effort no longer represents you. And the thought of leaving it is dizzying, not only because of money or status, but because of a deeper question: "who am I without this?"

Changing direction isn't a planning problem. It's a kind of grief. You leave behind an identity, a version of yourself that took years to build. That's why career coaching, focused on goals, falls short here: it's not only about deciding what to do, but about holding what stirs inside you while you decide.

I know that crossroads well. I left a corporate career to do this. I'm not here to push you toward any exit — I'm here to walk alongside you while you find your own.

More than coaching: what coaching doesn't reach

Coaching can help you set goals and take action. Counselling helps you understand why you need to perform so much — and at what cost.

I work with an integrative approach (IFS, EMDR, Gestalt, somatic) that goes beyond productivity strategies: to the beliefs about your worth, the patterns that shape your relationship with work, and the body that's paying the bill.

And I do it from a place of real understanding: I worked for years in consulting and tech (Accenture, Salesforce, Celonis). You don't need to explain to me what a sprint is, or the pressure of a Q4.

What we can explore together

Performance anxiety: when the bar you set yourself is harsher than any external target.

Impostor syndrome: the gap between what you've achieved and what you feel you deserve.

Emotional disconnection: functioning without feeling — the emptiness when you stop.

Eroded relationships: when work has devoured everything else, and you're far from your support network.

Decision fatigue: the exhaustion of deciding, leading, holding it all — every day.

Javier de Miguel

Javier de Miguel

I'm an integrative counsellor, with training in EMDR, IFS, Gestalt and trauma work, and four years of university studies in psychology. I work in both English and Spanish, so you don't have to translate your inner world before you can speak.

Before I dedicated myself to this, I worked in high-pressure corporate environments — consulting and tech. I know the pressure, the language and the emotional cost of that world from the inside. And I made the leap you might be weighing.

EMDR IFS Gestalt Trauma work 4 years of psychology Bilingual EN/ES
Accenture Salesforce Celonis

A free first conversation

30 minutes, no commitment. A space to get to know each other, understand what brings you here and see whether we're a fit.

If we decide to work together: 55-minute sessions, in person in Madrid (Ponzano, Chamberí) or online. In English or Spanish.

Fee: €65/session.

Frequently asked questions

Therapeutic support. Coaching works forward (goals, performance). This also works inward — the beliefs, emotions and patterns that shape your relationship with work.

Yes. I worked for years in consulting and tech (Accenture, Salesforce, Celonis). I know the pressure, the language and the dynamics first-hand.

Yes. There's early availability (before 9) and lunchtime slots. Online too, for maximum flexibility — useful if you travel for work.

No. Confidentiality is absolute. I don't issue reports, don't contact companies, and don't appear in corporate insurance schemes.

Many of the people I work with function perfectly on the outside. That's exactly why it's so hard to reach out: there's no visible crisis, just a sense that something doesn't fit. You don't need to be at breaking point to deserve a space of your own.

Yes. Not as a coach helping you decide the next step, but accompanying what moves inside you when a career stops representing you: the grief, the identity, the fear. I made that transition myself.

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