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Reflections on counselling, wellbeing and self-knowledge

Articles to better understand what you are going through, without oversimplifying it.

The body keeps the score: why emotional distress is felt in the body
Self-knowledge

The body keeps the score: why emotional distress is felt in the body

Tests come back fine and they tell you it's

Therapy for professionals in English in Madrid: a space that understands your world
Professionals

Therapy for professionals in English in Madrid: a space that understands your world

Burnout, anxiety, decision fatigue — you need a therapist who gets corporate pressure. Bilingual counselling for professionals in Madrid.

What to expect from a first counselling session
Counselling

What to expect from a first counselling session

What happens in a first session, what definitely won't happen, and how to know if the space is right for you.

When work devours your relationships: the relational cost of high performance
Professionals

When work devours your relationships: the relational cost of high performance

Anxiety in professionals: when performance no longer makes up for it
Professionals

Anxiety in professionals: when performance no longer makes up for it

A silent, functional, almost invisible anxiety — because the person experiencing it keeps performing. The signs corporate culture normalises.

LGBTI+ counselling in English in Madrid: finding a therapist who gets it
LGBTI+

LGBTI+ counselling in English in Madrid: finding a therapist who gets it

Finding an LGBTI+-affirmative therapist in Madrid who works in English shouldn't be this hard. Here's what to look for and what to expect.

What emotional dysregulation is and why regulation isn't control
Body & regulation

What emotional dysregulation is and why regulation isn't control

Regulation isn't feeling less — it's being able to feel without losing the ground beneath you. Why dysregulation happens and how it can be learned as an adult.

Trauma therapy in English in Madrid: finding the right therapist
Trauma

Trauma therapy in English in Madrid: finding the right therapist

Looking for trauma therapy or EMDR in English in Madrid? What to look for, what to expect, and why working in your language matters.

Decision fatigue: when you've been deciding all day and you just can't anymore
Professionals

Decision fatigue: when you've been deciding all day and you just can't anymore

Decision-making is a limited resource. Why

What is tVNS and how is it applied? Non-invasive vagus nerve stimulation
Body & regulation

What is tVNS and how is it applied? Non-invasive vagus nerve stimulation

Transcutaneous vagus nerve stimulation: what the evidence shows, how it's applied, and who it can help as a complement to therapeutic work.

Complex trauma and sympathetic activation: when your nervous system got stuck in survival mode
Trauma

Complex trauma and sympathetic activation: when your nervous system got stuck in survival mode

Chronic hyperactivation, the sympathetic-dorsal oscillation, the window of tolerance — and what it all means for therapeutic work.

LGBTI+ loneliness and belonging: when you don't fit in, inside or outside
LGBTI+

LGBTI+ loneliness and belonging: when you don't fit in, inside or outside

The loneliness of not quite belonging anywhere — too queer for one world, not enough for the other. Building authentic belonging.

How to regulate nervous activation: tools for everyday life
Body & regulation

How to regulate nervous activation: tools for everyday life

Breathing, movement, sensory orientation, co-regulation. Concrete, neurobiology-based tools to influence your nervous system's state.

Insomnia in professionals: when your head won't stop and your body can't rest
Professionals

Insomnia in professionals: when your head won't stop and your body can't rest

High-performer insomnia isn't a sleep problem — it's a nervous system problem. Why you can't sleep even when exhausted, and what actually works.

Does EMDR work online? What the evidence says and what I see in practice
Approaches

Does EMDR work online? What the evidence says and what I see in practice

Can you do EMDR by video call? The answer is yes, with nuances. What changes, what stays the same, and when in-person is preferable.

Somatic work: when the body needs to take part in the process
Body & regulation

Somatic work: when the body needs to take part in the process

You can understand perfectly why you feel anxious — and your body keeps reacting as if nothing changed. What somatic work is and what it looks like in session.

Family of origin and being LGBTI+: between rejection, conditional acceptance and repair
LGBTI+

Family of origin and being LGBTI+: between rejection, conditional acceptance and repair

Explicit rejection, lukewarm acceptance, full acceptance — and the grief for the family you needed. How this deep layer is worked on in therapy.

What is nervous activation? The sympathetic and parasympathetic systems explained
Body & regulation

What is nervous activation? The sympathetic and parasympathetic systems explained

Accelerator and brake: how your autonomic nervous system works, what happens when it dysregulates, and why understanding it changes everything.

Relational trauma: when the harm came from the people who were supposed to care for you
Trauma

Relational trauma: when the harm came from the people who were supposed to care for you

Emotional neglect, chronic invalidation, inconsistency. How relational trauma shapes your adult relationships — and the path to repair.

The successful professional's emotional disconnection: functioning without feeling
Professionals

The successful professional's emotional disconnection: functioning without feeling

You get the promotion and feel... nothing. What emotional disconnection is, how you get there, and the way back to feeling.

What is the systemic perspective? Understanding what's happening to you in context
Approaches

What is the systemic perspective? Understanding what's happening to you in context

We don't exist in isolation. Intergenerational patterns, assigned roles, invisible loyalties — and why context makes individual work deeper.

Anxiety and depression in LGBTI+ people: what the data says and what your therapist should know
LGBTI+

Anxiety and depression in LGBTI+ people: what the data says and what your therapist should know

LGBTI+ people show higher rates of anxiety and depression. It's not the identity — it's the context. What affirmative therapeutic work looks like.

What is Gestalt? Presence, awareness and the power of the here and now
Approaches

What is Gestalt? Presence, awareness and the power of the here and now

Gestalt isn't a set of techniques — it's a way of being present. The paradox of change, the body as ally, and the relationship as the field of work.

Flashbacks and intrusive memories: what they are, why they happen and what you can do
Trauma

Flashbacks and intrusive memories: what they are, why they happen and what you can do

It's not just

What is IFS? The model that works with your inner parts
Approaches

What is IFS? The model that works with your inner parts

We all have an inner system of parts: managers, firefighters, exiles. And underneath, the Self. How IFS works and who it's for.

LGBTI+ relationships: what a therapist needs to understand
LGBTI+

LGBTI+ relationships: what a therapist needs to understand

LGBTI+ couples share universal challenges and face specific dynamics: visibility, roles without a script, relational openness, minority stress at home.

Simple trauma and complex trauma: not all trauma is the same
Trauma

Simple trauma and complex trauma: not all trauma is the same

Single-event trauma vs the trauma that accumulates in relationships over time. Why complex trauma often feels like

Impostor syndrome in high performers: when success doesn't convince you
Professionals

Impostor syndrome in high performers: when success doesn't convince you

What is EMDR and how can it help you process what got stuck?
Approaches

What is EMDR and how can it help you process what got stuck?

EMDR is one of the most evidence-backed methods for working with traumatic experiences. How it works, what a session looks like, and who it's for.

Minority stress: the invisible wear of being LGBTI+ in a heteronormative world
LGBTI+

Minority stress: the invisible wear of being LGBTI+ in a heteronormative world

That split-second calculation before saying

When functioning well on the outside is no longer enough: counselling for high-pressure professionals
Professionals

When functioning well on the outside is no longer enough: counselling for high-pressure professionals

The invisible cost of high performance, why capable people don't seek help, and a space that understands your context from the inside.

How childhood experiences keep shaping your adult life
Trauma

How childhood experiences keep shaping your adult life

LGBTI+ affirmative counselling: what it is and why it matters that your therapist gets it
LGBTI+

LGBTI+ affirmative counselling: what it is and why it matters that your therapist gets it

The difference between tolerance and affirmation, why minority stress is real, and how to know if a therapist is truly affirmative.

Internalised homophobia: when the rejection comes from within
LGBTI+

Internalised homophobia: when the rejection comes from within

You can be out for years and still carry an inner voice saying something about you isn't right. What it is, how it shows up, and how to let it go.

How do you know if you need therapeutic support?
Self-knowledge

How do you know if you need therapeutic support?

You don't need to be in crisis to ask for help. The subtle signs we overlook, the myth of

When anxiety won't go away: why relaxation techniques aren't enough
Trauma

When anxiety won't go away: why relaxation techniques aren't enough

You've tried meditation, breathing, mindfulness apps. And the anxiety is still there. Why chronic anxiety is a signal, not the problem itself.

Psychologist, psychiatrist or counsellor: who do I need?
Counselling

Psychologist, psychiatrist or counsellor: who do I need?

Not all mental health professionals do the same thing. The essential differences so you can make an informed choice.

Coming out: what nobody tells you about the process (and how support helps)
LGBTI+

Coming out: what nobody tells you about the process (and how support helps)

Coming out isn't a single moment — it's a process that repeats. Coming out as an adult, the layers it touches, and why you don't owe anyone an explanation.

What is integrative counselling and how does it differ from clinical psychology?
Counselling

What is integrative counselling and how does it differ from clinical psychology?

Counselling is a professional helping relationship focused on accompaniment, not diagnosis. What

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